Friday, January 22, 2010

Blog Tour: Getting Intimate by Victoria Blisse

So today We'll be having a Q&A session with the author of "Getting Intimate", Ms. Victoria Blisse!


They hated their own bodies but loved each other. Would their lack of self confidence tear them apart or could love make them whole?

It’s been almost six months since Terri and John first met and fell in love at the gym and John wants to think of something special to mark their anniversary.

Terri is convinced that John is secretly seeing one of the skinny gym girls and her paranoia pushes her away from him.

She thinks that she is too fat to hold the attention of such a fit guy.John must think of a way to convince Terri that he really loves her sexy, curvaceous body and that nobody could take her place or face losing her forever.

And Now a Q&A with the Author: (who after some research on my part writes really awesome books)

This book's story line is close to my heart and I'm wondering what inspired you to write it?

Well, Getting Intimate is the sequel to Getting Physical and that was inspired by my short period of time attending the local gym. It was a fascinating experience and hence the need to write the story!

Terri is very much based on myself, I am in no way a skinny, gym bod and so many of Terri’s feelings are exactly the same as my own. Terri and John are such fantastic characters, both think they’re too ugly to attract the other (Terri is curvy, John is skinny) but in Getting Physical somehow they manage to make it work. I wanted to see how they coped in a relationship and that is where Getting Intimate starts.

I get sick to death of reading stories where the leading lady is as thin as a rail but with magically big boobs and a curvy arse which are often hidden behind frumpy clothes but once they come off she’s like a catwalk model. That is not real.

I like to write about real characters. Terri is curvy, she’s a plus sized lady and she has a stomach and stretch marks and her boobs aren’t as perky as they once were but she is still sexy. John is tall and thin, bean stalk thin in fact. He’s clumsy and shy and socially inept but he is sexy too. I take great delight in finding the sexiness in my characters no matter what they look like.

Do you consider yourself a motivational writer with a positive outlook on negative social standards?

Well no, I’d never thought of myself in that way to be honest but I do write positively and I do hope to inspire people to feel good about themselves whatever they look like. The outside is the packaging but it is what is inside that counts.

Just like Roald Dahl says in his book the twits:

"A person who has good thoughts cannot ever be ugly. You can have a wonky nose and a crooked mouth and a double chin and stick-out teeth, but if you have good thoughts they will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely."

I think this is true, very true and I hope the same sentiment comes through in my writing. You are beautiful, no matter what you think your fatal flaw is, there are other people out there who will think that adds to your beauty. My husband loves my tummy and my thighs. I hate them, I think they’re too fat but he adores them. It is possible that he’s completely mad but I think he’s just crazy for me.

I think we need to stop dwelling on the negative and keep thinking positive. The world would be a brighter place if people would do that I think.

Do you think media has portrayed that curvy women should not or could not have a relationship with fit men?

Oh yes, very much so. I think generally curvy women have a bad press. I feel the media tells us we have to be slim and slinky to be sexy and especially at this time of year when you cannot go anywhere without seeing adverts for slimming clubs and pills and potions and stupid crash diets that will never work in a million years.

I do realise sometimes people need to lose weight for health reasons, that is all well and good and should be done sensibly and slowly with changes in food consumption and the addition of more exercise but people do not need to change to be sexy!

Do you have any personal advice that you would to give our readers on self esteem?

Oh boy, I don’t think I am the expert at this at all because it is something I really do struggle with myself.

I have a wonderful picture as the background on my computer. It has a pair of feet on a set of scales and the dial simply reads ‘You are Beautiful’. I see this every time I open or shut down my computer and it makes me remember that I am beautiful no matter what my scales or society says.

I think it is important to have a reminder like this around you so that when you get bogged down in self-doubt you have something to pick yourself up with. Don’t rely on others compliments to pump up your self esteem, it is lovely to get them but they cannot be the foundation for your confidence. You have to compliment yourself. It is your own opinion that counts the most.
So think positive about yourself, make friends with your flabby bits and your imperfections, they are part of you. It’s tough, it really is but if you can’t give yourself a bit of TLC who else will, you know?

Last but not least, please let us know where we can find more of your work!

Well, the best place to go to find more of my work is my website all of my published work is listed there along with more information about me, some free stories and my blog which I do try to update regularly.

You can also search for Victoria Blisse at Fictionwise and Allromanceebooks if you have accounts there to find my stories or go direct to my publishers Phaze , Total-e-Bound and Xcite .

And I am also very social, so look up victoriablisse at twitter, facebook and myspace and I will be very happy to become your friend.

Thank you so much for this inspiring interview. I’ve thoroughly enjoyed filling it in!

Victoria I want to thank you so much for being here today! I couldn't agree more with what you've talked about and I have to say it was refreshing. I think we have many of the same views and I love to meet someone who's not afraid to put them out there!


  1. This is a very honest and special inteview. You're right about the characters nowadays looking so perfect. I think it's bad in the movies as well.

    I hope your book does well, Victoria!

  2. Hi :)
    Thank you for the excellent interview with Victoria & thanks to Victoria for sharing here. I really liked the indepth answers & insight into Victoria and her writing. I`m looking forward to reading Getting Intimate.
    All the best,

  3. Aubrie -Thank you. You're right, movies are full of unreal looking folks. I find uniqueness attractive not uniformity.

    RK -Thanks, I found these questions really interesting and really enjoyed answering them.